PASSAGES: SETTING BOUNDARIES AND CHOOSING YOU
How Alicia learned to say “no” to others (and “yes” to herself).
– KEYS SOULCARE
If you’re a people pleaser, raise your hand. (We’re imagining A LOT of raised hands.)
As a natural born “pleaser,” Alicia struggles with setting boundaries, choosing herself and saying no. In this video, she reads from her book More Myself and recalls her first big break away from the spotlight and how it made her a better person.
Dealing with the same struggle? Try these tips on putting yourself first and see how it feels:
Step Away For A Moment
Trust us, whatever it is that is so pressing, so urgent, that it requires your attention right now will be there waiting after you get back from taking a moment for yourself. And when you do return, you’ll be more focused and energized than before.
Choose a place that calls to you. Perhaps it’s a city you’ve always wanted to explore or a beach you visited as a child. Just go! Make the trip about you and no one else. Do what brings you joy — long walks, indulgent meals, historical tours, ziplining or maybe just relaxing. Whatever it is, enjoy every moment as a gift to you alone.
No. It’s one of the most powerful words you can utter when someone — a boss, a lover, a friend — asks you to do something that’s not your responsibility or that you truly don’t have energy or capacity to handle. Those two letters demand respect and it’s your right to ask for it.
Don’t Feel Guilty
Sticking to the boundaries that you set for yourself can be incredibly challenging once guilt sneaks in! Just remember, you deserve a break to recharge so that you can offer an even better you to the world.
Finding the strength to set and maintain boundaries is tricky, but you can do it!
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