The spiritual writer and wellness educator inspires us to connect to our best selves.
– KEYS SOULCARE
From her best-selling recent book, Vibe Higher Daily, to online community events and a beloved, breath-of-fresh-air Sacred Sunday newsletter, we’ve hardly kept our love for Lalah Delia a secret. The meditation advocate and writer is known for harnessing the power of words and lived experience to inspire people to dig a little deeper into their own inner lives, and invest in what’s needed to support them.
Here’s our chat about how she practices what she teaches — from challenging emotions to honoring your worth.
How do you define yourself?
I am a being who is here to help people vibrate higher from wherever they may find themselves, and to remind people to journey in grace, to live their power, and to love themselves through wherever they find themselves. Some call it “new age”, but I call it modern ancient work — because it’s based on ancient wisdom and ritual.
How does that show up in your daily life?
What that looks like in my daily life is being an author, a spiritual writer, a spiritual practitioner, and the founder of a website. I have an online school and teach people how to work with vibration, energy, and frequency, and how to stand in your equanimity, from going to the market to purchase foods that are highly vibrational for you, to making your home a sanctuary.
It’s a Buddhist tenet that teaches you that no matter what happens, no matter who comes, no matter who goes, you are in your place of poise, composure, inner balance, and inner peace. So it’s like you’re in this boat in the middle of the ocean, the waves are coming, the turbulence is there, but you’re just like, “Ashé, I’m in my purpose.”
What does the word “ritual” mean to you?
Bringing reverence, a spiritual etiquette, and a particular mindfulness to what you’re doing. When I go into ritual it’s not just to gain access to a benefit — it’s also to offer a part of me as well. Ritual is about give and take, be it about ritualizing your joy (which I teach a lot about) or accessing wellness, success, or charisma within yourself. You’re tapping into a force within yourself and within the universe when you do that.
Can you give an example?
For example, ritualizing our worth. Just slowing down and saying, “I’m taking time to stand in my worth today. I’m showing up with my words. I’m dressing in my worth, and I’m moving throughout whatever beauty application honors that worth. Or, even doing something as simple as actually stopping to smell a flower as we pass it. Spirituality is integrated into all these little aspects that we can sometimes take for granted.
Another example is how I ritualize my joy. For one, I can access it in the first place. For two, I can feel joy. And for three, I can be respectfully unapologetic about the joy in my life. Sometimes, when we’re joyful, we want to dumb that down. Or maybe we’re ashamed that other people don’t feel it, or maybe we don’t even feel that we deserve it.
We can find ourselves so rigid in life to where we’re just moving with the mundaneness and routine of life that we forget to ritualize things like joy, wellness, and self-care. In ancient times, the ritual was everything. And so, when we remember that, we can go back to that.
You inspire people to honor their ability to fly, but encourage respect for their failings. How do you walk that line in your own life?
I’m gonna read something to you that I said last night on Clubhouse. It was this idea of “the crawl” — just honoring the emotional crawl that comes in times when we can’t fully stand in something, but are just going through it.
[When] people say how did you “get” through something, they envision just walking through it. But many times, it’s hard and not concrete. Sometimes, we crawl.
What does soulcare mean to you?
Soulcare, for me, is allowing the integration of spirit, mind, and body to be without hindrance. So, if I want to be in a conversation and I want to bring my spiritual sense into the conversation — whether it’s professional work, wellness, or health — I’m free to do that. And I don’t feel any type of way about that connection.
What makes you a lightworker?
I’m a lightworker, a [spirit-centered path] is no longer just a lifestyle. It’s not a practice or a job, either. It’s just who I am. I live here! So I’m just living my life as the lightwork. I’m allowing myself to just use the beautiful force of light energy — within my meals, my conversations, my choices, and my work in the world — from a place of high spiritual integrity.
How can you ritualize the joyful aspects of your life? Share your ideas and intentions in the comments!