How content creator Mikayla Martinez celebrates every minute of every day.
– Keys Soulcare
Mikayla Martinez — the writer, coach, and mother behind Mikayla Unmastered — makes ordinary moments feel extraordinary. As she documents her everyday life, Mikayla invites us to explore life through a grounded-but-gracious lens, whether you’re reflecting on moments of motherhood, partnership, or self-acceptance.
We had the chance to chat with Mikayla and get her top tips on how to sit with more beautiful moments in our day-to-day, too.
Who are you and what do you do?
I’m a writer, a wellness coach, and creative. I’m also a mother, which is not only who I am, but a huge part of who I am. I’m learning to exist separately in this new season of motherhood and trying to separate from just that motherhood identity, which is really easy to get lost in.
Why do you focus on family and everyday moments?
In this digital age with social media, a pandemic, and everything, [many of us] work from home for the most part. So, we constantly have this buffer between all of us that makes it so easy to filter who we are, what we are, and literally where we appear to be. When we strip all of those things away, from our titles to the filters on the photos and videos we use — what we’re left with is where we’re actually at and what we actually look like, at the core of us.
So, we must [always] remember that we’re all just super imperfect — super magical, but also very imperfect beings.
Why is it so difficult for us to see that worth in ourselves, even when we’re drawn to it in others?
I think one of the big reasons we get stuck in that cycle is because we’re constantly consuming other people. Cell phones and technology are such great things and powerful tools. But, [through them], we’re always consuming other people’s ideas, opinions, and representations… so much so that I think, a lot of times, we become detached from our own.
We forget how to listen to the voices inside of us… and just recognize that all of those [external] things are really, really cool and they’re great, but that they also do not take away from us. That consumption cycle and lack of time spent with self-recognizing our own gifts makes it hard for us to recognize all of the greatness within us.
What rituals help you ground you in the moment?
Something I’m really, really mindful of — like almost mindful to the point where my partner gets annoyed with me — is what I’m consuming at all. I’m like, “I’m sorry, I can’t watch that. It’s a really good show, but it’s going to give me bad vibes for the rest of the day and the rest of the week…” I think that’s something that’s important for everybody to kind of check, especially if you’re finding yourself feeling negative about yourself when you’re looking at other people, what they create, or whatever.
How about rituals that help you connect to yourself?
That’s a work in progress for me. I have a seven-year-old son and a one-year-old daughter, [who was] born right in the midst of this pandemic. I had all these perfect plans about how everything was going to work out… but life doesn’t work like that. Life just keeps on life-ing!
So to be totally, totally honest, for the last year, I’ve really struggled with giving myself the space to feel beautiful and to just really relish myself. It’s probably been maybe a month where I finally was like, “Okay, I have sacrificed enough of myself, my time, my body… and it’s time to also put myself first. Let’s practice what we preach, Mikayla. Come on now.”
There’s so much to do in the day, but I’ve been trying to be intentional about making sure that before my day truly begins and I’m serving others, that I’ve been trying to give myself at least 20 minutes to be either writing, moving my body, stretching, or just doing something to pour into myself. I’ve been doing this for a month and I feel like a brand new person. And that’s really like when I feel my most beautiful and powerful, because I’m like, okay, “I’m kind of a hot mess, but I’m up for the day. I am pouring into myself so I can then pour into everybody around me.”
Any tips for creating that spirit and cultivating those moments in our own lives?
There was just so much in the last year that I think really made all of us be like, “Whoa, life is really so fragile and really so short.” Since then, and [since] experiencing these losses, I have definitely begun looking for those moments more, if that makes sense. Before, I was kind of letting them find me. But, you’re going to get a whole lot less of them if you sit around waiting. You have to keep your eyes, your senses, and your heart open to them, and really look — relishing all the joy and good you find. Even on the days that suck, [because] some absolutely will.
How has seeing beauty in your everyday life changed your perspective? Share in the comments!