On embracing the art of “gimme a sec.”
– KEYS SOULCARE
We’ll admit it. When we’re asked for a “simple” favor or to join in on “just one more thing,” taking a pause to check in with ourselves is often the very last thing we do.
And yet, how well would it serve us to take that one step?
Instead, we leave the value of our time (and our sense of self-worth) for someone else to decide.
So today, we’re not saying yes, immediately. We’re tuning into our own needs and priorities before committing to more. We’re committing to deep breaths and clarifying questions like, “Can you tell me more about what’s entailed?” before hopping into “I’m in!” mode.
And we’re taking note of the people pushing back on our boundaries. We’re making better choices about who we give our “extra” time and attention in the first place.
“You have a finite amount of emotional energy every day, and unused minutes do not roll over,” according to Linda Esposito, LMSW, whose post in Psychology Today describes how to establish healthy personal boundaries and regularly check in with your gut and respond in a way that honors everyone’s time.
A few new responses we’re trying lately
I love giving advice! Can we do it on the phone while I take a 30-minute walk on Friday?
I mainly text about work or my child during the day, but I’d love to give you my full attention in real time at ____ time!
If this is about work, can you email me to keep things official?
Last but not least, we’re transferring all of these superpowers to you, too. Because your peace is priceless. (And so are you.)
How do you hold space to consider yourself before taking on more from others?