Perfectaholic founder Crystal Love on why women should stop being “basic” and start being authentic.
– KEYS SOULCARE
Recovering perfectionist Crystal Love is on a mission to free women from the restraints of perfection — and guide them to an authentic, fulfilling life. Her brand, PERFECTAHOLIC, is the breakthrough community led by Love, an Atlanta-based serial entrepreneur whose unapologetic honesty feels like a bestie pep talk right when you need it.
PERFECTAHOLIC’s motto says it all — “perfection is for basic bitches” — meaning that playing perfect can keep us from being our most inimitable, vibrant selves. When we turn towards unrealistic standards of beauty and performance, we turn away from the full experience of being human.
So, it’s time to leave perfection behind and start living the good life we all deserve. Are you with us? Read on for three tips inspired by Love’s mission to get you to drop the facade and get back to who you really are.
Create your own standard
The biggest motivation for perfectionist behavior is attempting to live up to someone else’s standard. Chasing the newest airbrushed looks or trying to people-please our way to success distracts us from asking an important question — what do I want? Taking a moment to decide what’s most important to us and why makes all the difference. Having your own standard is essential to reclaiming your power and finding meaning in your actions.
Practice being present
Often perfectionists are future-focused while gearing up for the next big thing or worrying about an inevitable mistake. By fearing the unknown, or trying to monitor our every move, we can miss out on the people and experiences right in front of us. Learning to be more present and relinquishing control allows us to embrace the everyday moments of our lives, making space for gratitude and connection along the way.
Know you’re not alone
The biggest lie perfectionism tells us? We’re all alone in our thoughts, feelings, and imperfections. Our inner critics can be so loud that they feel like truth-tellers, but that is not the case. Nobody is invincible or perfect — we’re all figuring out life, love, and happiness as we grow. Accepting that we all have our own unique stories and contributions in this world can bring more opportunities to heal ourselves rather than hide ourselves — and that’s something we can all appreciate.
Perfect doesn’t exist! Are you a recovering perfectionist? How has breaking up with perfection brought joy into your life? Share in the comments!
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